Happy Bisexuality Awareness Month and Women’s History Month! As an auspicious month for two of my identities, I wanted to review something that reflected these identities. Luckily, I have friend who shares these identities with me and recommended “Bi Women Quarterly”, a magazine by and for bisexual women. On their site it says, “Bi Women Quarterly is a grassroots publication produced by the Boston Bisexual Women’s Network. We have been in continuous publication since 1983, and are the oldest bisexual+ women’s publication in the world, with an international readership.” The magazine features art and writing, generally based upon the theme of the issue.
It was a nice to read a magazine that I knew was written by people like me, for people like me. That’s not to say that I don’t like content read by people with other identities, in fact, I find that invaluable. But many of the magazines targeted towards a woman audience that I’ve read have been very heteronormative, and a lot of queer content that I have read has still been very monosexualnormative (assuming that readers are only attracted to a single sex or gender, therefore erasing the existence of bisexuality).
My favorite article of “Bi Women Quarterly Winter 2021 Issue: Finding Sex/Finding Love ” Vol. 39 No. 1″, was an article by Martine Mussies titled, “I Am Not Not Your Manic Pixie Dreamgirl”. In it, Mussies’ wrote about men’s common perception of her as being a “manic pixie dreamgirl” because she is an autistic, bisexual woman. Mussies also writes about the ways that bisexual women are fetishized in tandem which the ways in which neurdodivergent women are festishized, comparing it to the “manic pixie dreamgirl” trope. I am not autistic, but I do have ADHD which has a lot of overlapping markers and the “hyperfixation” experienced by people with ADHD can appear similar to the “mania” of the “manic pixie dreamgirl” title. I too have dyed the ends of my hair bright colors, time and time again, and love wearing retro fashion styles and nerdy graphic tees. I am an aquarius, the fictional character that I most relate too is Luna Lovegood from Harry Potter, and yes, you could definitely say that I am quirky. But being put into the box “manic pixie dreamgirl” is dehumanizing since the trope tends to make it woman’s job to “fix” a man’s life, and only values her quirkiness when it is deemed conventionally attractive. I could go on about this but the I think The Take explains it better. I actually asked them if they could make this video in the comments I am very glad that they took my request! Along with “Bi Women Quarterly” I would recommend The Take channel on YouTube. They focus on feminism with film, but they have also made videos about LGBT+ representation. But don’t forget to check out “Bi Women Quarterly” as well, embeded below!